Muting someone stops them hearing you and not just you hearing them
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I agree, this is exactly what I came here for, to ask for this same request.
When you block a user, their replies are hidden to you in text chats unless you decide to see them by clicking see more. This is useful if you do not want to see their messages, they on the other hand, can see your messages, it isn't a big problem to me, because you can kind of control what you say in a text chat. Something very diferent happens when speaking in a voice chat.
Putting it on a nutshell, in a voice chat, even if you have blocked someone, you can still hear them and they can hear you, so you have to mute them because you don´t want anything to do with them, but they can still hear you. That is not fair. They get to hear everything you say, while you don't. It is as if they are spying on you. I don't know if you put your camera or if you share your screen if the person you have blocked can see you, but shouldn't be able to just the same as with your voice.
To explain more thoroughly and even though it is a long story, I am going to write about my situation and why, in my experience, the way the blocking/muting sistem is established, at the moment, benefits perpetrators and penalizes victims:
There is a person (that I have blocked and I don't want to do anything with) that got obsessive over me and preyed on any kind of information he could get about me. He was basically stalking me and made me very unconfortable.
I spoke with him several times telling him what he was doing was wrong, that it was stalking and that it had to stop. Another five people talked with him too but he kept obsessing. I blocked him and stopped talking to him, but he still entered the voice chats and tried to talk to me. I muted him, but the other people in the conversation told me that even though he knew (because they told him) that I had muted him, and therefore, couldn't hear him, he still tried to answer my questions and tried to engage with my conversation as if I could still hear him, trying to get a reaction off of me. He was a moderator in the server and had his rol taken away because of his attitude towards me.
I felt so insecure in the voice chats that I started to avoid getting in if he was there or would stop speaking while he was inside, measuring everything of the little I spoke (just to answer to direct questions). Others as well as myself tried to reason with him so many times, but he just did not stop. In the end, the creator of the server, had him banned from entering any voice chat and shortly after also had to mute him from speaking/writing in the server at all as he continued with his attitude. He was muted for a month and a half and he is now back (as of the 2nd of march).
Since coming back, he has avoided me and I have avoided him. He doesn't come into a voice chat if I am inside, but sometimes, he goes in the moment I leave, so I can't go back (even if I have gone to have lunch or have had my wifi signal interrupted and plan on returning shortly) because he still can hear me and I don't feel safe with that. Because of this I, sometimes, see myself wanting to go inside a voice chat because that is where my friends are, but not being able to because he is in there, so I have to wait for hours for him to go or for my friends to move to another chat.
The reason why the creator of the server does not ban him is because he is a oldtime user in the server, much more than what I am, he was also a moderator. He didn't show this kind of attitude towards the other users because they were mostly guys with the ocassional girl that already had a boyfriend. I did not have a boyfriend, this is the reason why he obsessed and even though I told him not to obsess over me he ignored me and kept on with it. There is also people in the server that don't want to be heard by him because they know what he has done and are not comfortable with him and find themselves in a very similar situation to mine, where they stop talking when he comes in the voice chat and are forced to exit the chat as they don't feel at ease.
Our server is a gaming server, so each voice chat is used for a certain tipe of game and you shouldn't play other games while in that voice chat. It would be so useful not only for me, but also for the people that feel uncomfortable with him knowing what he did to me, if he could not hear us. This way, I would not be afraid even if he were to be in the voice chat, I would feel safe because I would know that there would be no way for him to start stalking me again. If I would want to play a certain game or just talk with the people that play that game and he were to be there I would not hesitate.
The reason I have spoken about all of this is because, with this situation, I have realised the flaw in the blocking/muting system, and it is therefore, the reason why it has to change. I am not telling all of this to get him in trouble or get his account shut down, because I know that with this change in the blocking/muting sistem we could coexist in the same server without any issue.
So I ask Discord to please, modify the muting/blocking system so it is safer and fairer. I have tried to explain myself as best and as clearly as possible, I hope you can see my geniune concern about this issue in this comment. Thank you for taking your time reading it.
Mina.
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I'm sure this is very simple for discord to implement. Please do it!
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So this guy and I don’t get along for reasons I wont get deep into. So my friends had to make a separate discord so I could be in one with them and he in the other because this feature isn’t available. Frankly without this feature it strengthens division amongst friends who have people in certain groups that don’t all get along and want to all just chill. Depending on whose on first or who asks to play something first, we’re divided because someone gets left out of the discord. I dont trust the other person because he’s lied and slandered me to other people, so I especially don’t trust him to do the right thing and mute me so both of us don’t hear eachother. I don’t wanna talk badly about him, I just dont want him to hear me. I’m not gonna tell my friends they shouldn’t or cant be friends with them. Why would I want to mute him, and say something and then the dude hears me and says something about me and everyone laughs and I feel like I’m getting laughed at when that may not even be the case but I’ll still sit their questioning it stressing and vice versa?Maybe the whole reason behind it was so “people wouldn’t talk sh*t about someone without them hearing it.” Right like people dont have phones and cant text eachother anyways lol. Not sure that was the actual reason but after seeing a different post of 3 years and no implementation what else is there to think? Seems like discords reinforcing bullying and excluding people. Discord hasn’t even replied to any of these posts which shows they don’t care at all.
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yeah as the guy above me said this is something thats supposed to be easy yet people can still hear you when you mute them, seems like a lie to me, especially when it says on discords main help page that the other party CANNOT hear you when you have them muted.
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even with shitty nitro they can still hear me lmao, whats even the point of it.
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This is seriously something discord needs to change! It is like promoting bullying to a T. No other online chat service has ever been like this ever and for them to implement this seems very shady. It has caused multiple issues with my situation. I don't even want to be on discord anymore or use this service just because of this issue. Please discord do the right thing and fix this!
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