My kids activity feed



  • Celeron

    This could be a major privacy concern if someone's entire account could be viewed without the owner's permission.

  • Castor

    Helicopter parenting in an online world wherein you and/or your child are not obligated to use any part of the internet cannot be advocated. If you are this concerned about your child's online safety, then kindly do not give them online access--at least not to Discord. It is that simple. I am not going to tell you how to parent your child otherwise, but violating their rights to privacy is not the way to parent. Think about this, please. New generations of people are directly affected by their parents. Parenting directly affects the future world. More to the point, parents who are concerned about their children's interactions with strangers online should be as similarly concerned about interactions with strangers on the street.

    There is 'no easy way of monitoring their activity' because Discord is not designed for children. It is designed primarily for online gamers--the majority of them prefer to have their privacy kept at the level it is, i.e, without parenting back-doors.

  • SilentNyte

    I'm not interested in violating their privacy. I'm looking for a feature similar to reddit or Twitter. Where you can view their public postings. I have to hope in their private conversations they use good judgment.

    In the real world as parents we have a good idea of where are children are and who they are hanging out with. With the internet this is almost impossible without "helicopter parenting". So how do we keep an eye on our kids without constantly looking over their shoulders online? How do we let them make mistakes and then help then to correct them if we have no way of knowing what they are doing?

    The world we live in it's changing rapidly and the anonymity that the internet provides is greatly abused. My goal is to provide guidance in etiquette and courtesy. Something that most of the current internet users are sorely lacking.

    Give me tools to help guide the next generation of online users and maybe the online world will be a little bit better for it.

  • Celeron

    With all due respect, I think 13 is old enough to trust your child to use their best judgement and not to try to monitor everything they do. As long as your child knows basic internet safety, they should be fine.

    However, if you'd like, you can disable the ability to be sent messages from strangers and to receive friend requests from them via account settings.

  • SilentNyte

    I really appreciate all the feedback. I love a good healthy discussion where people can share their ideas without ridicule.
    Unfortunately not every discussion online is as open and courteous. Part of parenting is helping your kids steer away from those toxic environments.
    I understand your concern for privacy. The last thing I want is to infringe on that. But the same way I would not let my son wander the streets of Detroit with strangers. I cannot allow my son to want the dark corners of the internet with a bunch of strangers.
    If the two of your opinions is reflective of all of discord then it is obvious that your privacy is more important to you than sharing PUBLIC posts with your parents.
    I will continue my search for a community that is open to the idea that kids should share their online life (the same as their real life) with their parents not hide it from them.
    Again thank you for your feedback.

  • Castor

    If you introduce backdoors for parenting then you're introducing backdoors for less scrupulous users to exploit it. It's not just hackers, it's abusive relations too that can cause havok in someone's life - this isn't to say that I think you might be abusive, it's just to say that once the system is put in place, it can be exploited by abusers. I'm sure your intentions are well-meaning, but it's uncomfortable knowing that someone is watching over your shoulder for the sole purpose of making sure you're not saying something they'll disagree with.

    Servers and groups aren't really public. Groups require existing members to give access permission, and servers require an invitation link regardless of how widely-available that link is. I know you might think that this is just a matter of semantics, but it's a part of why your suggestion is barking up the wrong tree I think. The system works securely as it does - we shouldn't be introducing parenting backdoors over any kind of trust issues.

    I understand your analogy, but would you wander Detroit with him and a bunch of strangers, or would you both simply not bother? If you're unwilling to accompany your son to any part of the internet but still want to make sure he's behaving and not mixing with the wrong 'sorts' as it were, then I really think forgoing it entirely is the better option.

    If you can agree on the matter with your child, then I suggest you resort to using a shared account.


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