Is there any "just right" Servers?

I feel like there's a huge divide between discord servers, There are always servers that are too toxic, or servers that are too PC and will ban you if you say a cuss word by accident. I wish there was a laid back server with people who aren't toxic, but not sensitive either. People who have humor and not edgy humor. People who don't treat you badly for being that certain guy they hate to have in the server, but still has morals and knows what to keep out. I hate how I have to pick one or the other, why can't it be both.