DM's chat notification (visual haptic problem)

it really took time to someone else dm's me to read the messages. i have a lots of discord server i joined, but thanks to server folder. another issue pop up in my mind, i have moderating my server, if someone need me quickly as possible, they'll dm's me. and that's problem pop up.

sometime i didn't pay attention long list server because too crowded to get attention, and dm's icon is same as server icon, they round with various picture. make me feels "kinda confused"